Think of the most recent romantic movie you've seen (especially if it's a romantic comedy). Now think of the reasons that a character might give as to why he or she cannot enter into a relationship. They vary, but one of the more popular reasons given typically goes something like "I can't because I just got out of a bad relationship."
To me, this argument (in most cases) makes very little sense. Having seen friends deal with their own relationships and having left a poor relationship or two myself, I've noticed that most people are eager to have a quick turnaround after a bad relationship. Some are eager to one-up the previous relationship, others just want their minds off of whomever they just broke up with. Either way, most people anymore (at least in my age demographic) put an emphasis on a quick turnaround, it seems.
What really upsets me here is the fact that no one (or not enough people) cite getting "out of a good relationship" as a reason for not having a quick turnaround. You've never heard it in movies, which seems to dictate the pulse of the romantic lives of young American teens and twenty-somethings. As anyone who's fallen out of a good relationship, particularly if it was against their will, it hurts a thousand times worse than falling out of a bad relationship. We quickly wash our hands and look to the future after falling out of a bad relationship, but falling out of a good one is like getting hit with a large piece of lumber. It leaves splinters, which have a nasty habit of sticking around.
much respect,
josh
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